A young Native American boy gruelingly journeys through the vast desert.
After days of walking, climbing and trekking, he decides to rest on top of a massive canyon.
And as he sits, he looks out onto the valley below—onto the sun making its way beneath the horizon. He focuses on the sounds of the wind through the sand, and the animals scurrying for warmth.
He takes in the birds in the distance and the smell of sage brush surrounding his being.
And as he looks off into the beautiful desert.. it happens.
Southerners have style.
And as a southern son myself, born in Mississippi and currently residing in Louisiana, I’d like to shed line on some essential carry for the southern gentleman. These items are sure to add a bit of flair and class to your overall style.
1. Navy Blazer
Every man should have a navy blazer, find one with the right fit that will last years of wear and tear. J. Crew and LandsEnd are usually formidable options.
When the world is your canvas, make a habit of always carrying a camera with you. Never suffer the regret of wishing you had.
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.
But Love and I had the wit to win:
We drew a circle that took him in!
Throughout the course of my life, I have strived to record my thoughts and hopes in a written format. Sometimes that has taken the form of a private journal or prayer journal, other times it has taken the form of a blog. More often than not, I have failed to be successful in this endeavor to write.
However, just as life tends to circle itself in peaks and valleys, I find myself once again sparked to write my thoughts out. I want to apologize to you in advance, my friends and those who might not even know me. This is not the organized essay of the seminarian, the ranting of a scholar, or an article of a theologian. Instead this is the meek attempt of a student to sort out the many many thoughts running about in my head. I feel like I’m attempting to drink from a fire hydrant when I’m in school and the incredible amount of thoughts I’m being presented with need to be written down. So this is for my sanity, that my head would be more ordered and that my close friends might get a peek into my seminarian experience.
Welcome back to the madness that is my head!
Earlier I wrote about how the phenomenon of Boys Who Can Shave (BWCS). Boys in our culture are not getting put through rights of passage and thus they are uncertain of their manhood because it is not well defined. Thus they define their manhood by what the consume instead of what they produce, creating dead weight that no woman should love.
This brings us to our second problem. Women in our society need to be stronger. (wait! put down your man-hating battle axes!) Women in our society need to be stronger to challenge their men to be real men! I’m all for equality and women working, (unfortunately our economy has left few women with the choice to stay at home) but not as the primary supporter of the home. Men are meant to produce and if the women in their lives do not push them to produce then they are also failing.
The problem of this cycle is that these boys trying to become men also damage women in the process. By focusing on how many women they can conquer, men devalue women as objects of physical beauty. While a man should appreciate the beauty of a woman (and they ARE beautiful!!) he should also seek to know her soul.
This is another place where men fail to produce. We are too afraid of rejection to muster up the balls to actually seek a woman’s heart. (This is a place where I am stepping on my own toes as well!) We need to be Men who are not too afraid of rejection to be able to seek a woman’s heart.
In seeking only a woman’s body, men tell women that their value is only in their looks. Between men telling women this their whole lives and the media telling women they aren’t thin enough, women finally start to believe that they are worthless without a man by their side. Thus women allow their boys to be boys, in fear of losing that which gives them value, instead of challenging them to be the men they are supposed to be.
So how is this solved? Just reverse the problem. Simple in design, and complex in reality. Men need to go through a right of passage (bigger than a driver’s license test) to be told that they are men ONLY when they can produce. When they value women for people, follow a career path, create a family and then produce for that family, then and only then are they men.
When that happens, Women will be elevated to their proper place in life. They have the most important part of all! I would not devalue women by saying they do not belong in the workplace (I know MANY women who are much smarter and better workers than I am!), but I also believe that they have the responsibility to expect more out of their husbands, boyfriends and sons.
As a caveat to the end of this rampage on our societal structures, I would like to point out that I am not a man by these expectations. I am not married, I am not a father, I am not finished with my education, and I have not left my father’s household. However, I AM working towards that end and I look forward to that day. I am searching for the woman whose heart I would like to seek (not haphazardly), I am completing my education with a purpose and a drive for a career, I am seeking the career I have chosen and have begun candidacy for my eventual career, and I am NOT having sex with anyone outside of marriage as I am expectantly waiting until it is proper to begin a family (the real value of sex!).
Maybe, starting with myself, we can change the face of America’s men so that they can stop being Boys Who Can Shave, and become Men Who Can Provide.